I’m a woman.  I like porn (just as well, really, because I make adult blogs for a living).  I began by thinking I could work with the stuff which lit my fire, but that wasn’t easy.

It is hard enough (pun intended) to delve into the depths of men’s sexual desires and get it right on and off, without even trying to fathom out what turns each individual woman on.

All humans are individuals, with their own particular tastes. One man may get his rocks off with sexy latinas, another will love polish women with big boobs.  Many men are into fetishes and some are gay curious, and so on…

But the intricacies of male sexual preferences is nothing in comparison to trying to figure out good porn for women which actually works!

Us girls not only think with more parts of our brains (and each part may be turned on by something different), we are also very contrary.  A sex video which turns us on one day may leave us cold the next!

So, if you have arrived here in the hope of finding something which will light a fire in your wife’s flagging libido, or turn your girlfriend in a sex hungry slut, then you may not get all the answers you are looking for!

However, what I can offer your are my views on what works for me.  With the proviso these may change as soon as they are published

I am a straight women.  Personally, I love looking at men… but not at their cocks.  It is the look in their eyes and the way they smile which turns me on.

For me, a sexy man also has to have personality and humour and at least appear to be smart.  And most important of all, he has to actually like women and enjoy turning them on.

Which is why, for example, in the male celeb arena, I like Antonio Banderas for his smile and the way he admires women, but, although I used to like Brad Pitt for his smile, I now find him hard to like because of the way it was reported that he treated Jennifer Aniston.

90s Brit Pop star, Jarvis Cocker is a sex symbol many men would look at and ask "why?"  Jarvis is tall and skinny and although ‘ok looking’, he is nothing special.  They fail to notice his intelligence and wit and that his songs about sex and love show real feeling for the girls in the ‘plot’.

In porn movies, I can understand why Ron Jeremy became such a big success, despite his chubby features, fat belly and a remarkable resemblance to Super Mario ; ) The way I see things is that Ron’s great big cock was a definite bonus to making a name for himself, but more importantly, it is the way he uses it.

Ron appears to actually like the women he is fucking.  He takes time to pleasure them.  That is why, whilst Ron Jeremy is envied by men for his big dick, women like him because he knows how to please them.

I could enjoy talking more about different men who turn me on in various ways, but that will do for now.  I think it is clear, however, that muscles (and size in general) are not the point of turn on for women.  Fat, thin, toned, flabby, whatever… it is all about the charisma – the way a man’s actions make a woman feel.

There are, however, other sex acts which turn me on and, I would guess, have the same affect on many other women as well.

Like many straight women, it is not only men who turn me on.  A good lesbian sex video involving women who are (or at least appear to be) really turned on could well do it for me too.

When a woman watches another woman ‘cumming on camera’, it is a turn on, because we can put ourselves in her place.

That is why good lesbian porn will win every time.  In these type of sex movies, the producers actually care about what is happening to the females in the plot.  After all, this is what they are promoting.  They have to get it right.

Good lesbian porn is not about all those ‘fake lesbian videos’, where the female pornstar is ‘moonlighting’ as a lesbian.  Female pornstars who work this way are usually so used to pouting ‘lustfully’ at the camera, they are too busy posing to be turned on at all, even though they fake it.

For women, that type of lesbian (and heterosexual) porn usually sucks.

We want to feel our porn as the woman in the video feels it.  We have to believe the woman is really having an orgasm (and we are not easy to fool).

Videos of women climaxing on camera are often a turn on for women too, as are female masturbation videos for the same reason.

It is all about how we can identify with the woman on the screen and how that makes us feel.

So, when you are looking for a video to spark up your sex life with your woman, don’t think of you – think of her.

Don’t rush out and buy her something with ‘a good looking hunk’ on the cover (he is probably gay anyway).  Think instead about the woman in the video.  Can your female partner identify with her in a good way?

If she can, you may well be on to a winner.

So, I hope this has gone some way to helping you decide how to buy porn for women.  And if you get it right, I am really sure all that hard work searching will soon turn out worthwhile

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